How to make tough decisions that work well?
Decision-making is very important in everyday life. We make numerous decisions every day, taking from what to wear to what to eat for dinner. We make simple decisions easily, but we fail mostly at making tough decisions in life and this is painful.
These tough decisions you make build you or destroy you. It depends on the kind of decisions you make. Tough decisions which are right may give you pain, but they build your character, and they grow self-respect, and you must make these decisions even though it’s hard to make them.
So now the question is how to make tough decisions effectively?
Here are the few things to remember while making tough decisions that are right and that build you strong.
Be logical, not emotional:
Whenever you are making a tough decision, be logical, not emotional. Use your logic because you are making the tough decisions that should build you not destroy you.
Emotions will limit your decision-making. You care about not hurting others or yourself, or you will see whether anyone’s feelings get effected or not. Your emotions will prevent you from taking the tough decision that is right.
For example, giving up on a toxic relationship. When you have to make this tough decision of leaving a relationship, emotions will not allow you to take the right decision as your emotions caused addiction to that person.
While logic will help you overcome a toxic relationship by making you understand why it's harmful to be in such a relationship. I know it's not easy to not use your emotions, but by prioritizing logic, you push yourself to take the right decision that helps you long term.
Tough decisions made using logic will help you become strong long term and tough decisions made using your emotions may help you temporarily, but eventually they destroy you.
Prioritize truth rather than being good/kind:
Most people are comfortable with sweet lies than bitter truths. These bitter truths actually can make you wise and give you long term peace and happiness.
Most people take tough decisions in life for a temporary comfort than a permanent relief. So they try to lie to others and lie to themselves to take waste decisions that don’t fix things in life.
For example, you lie to yourself that everything is okay in your life when nothing is okay. But if you told yourself nothing is right, and you are going to fix it some way, you would make different decisions in life that would solve many problems in life.
Start prioritizing truth. Be truthful to yourself and then make the right decisions which are tough to make. By doing so, you are doing a great help to you and to others.
Be confident and strong:
To make tough decisions in life that are right, you need confidence and mental strength. With no confidence, you take bad decisions or uneven decisions which don’t work well.
With no mental strength, you make weak decisions that don’t work. To make tough decisions, you should be very strong mentally, and you need to be very confident.
For example, if you are passionate about something, but you already have a secure job that pays well. You don’t want to give up your job for your passion. But you are not happy with your job, but you are happy with your passion.
This is the dilemma most people leave in. You can decide to choose your passion instead of your job only when you are very confident and mentally strong.
Always be confident and mentally strong while making tough decisions as they could help you live your life to the fullest without any limits.
Don’t care about judgment:
While making tough decisions in the right way, never allow judgment of others to come into play. The more you care about others' judgment, the worst your decision will be.
Stop caring about others’ judgment and make your tough decision for yourself. It may be a career or relationship or anything. Don’t care what other’s think. Just think about yourself.
You are taking tough decisions to make your life better. So don’t let this thought of judgment spoil it.
Making tough decisions is a part of life. No one can make every decision for you, and you will be judged by the decisions you make. Don’t care about the judgment of others; make the decision that’s best for you. You have to live with the consequences, no one else does.
It’s easy to get wrapped up in what others may think of you, but don’t let it dictate your decisions. Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means going against popular opinion. Remember, you’re the only one who has to live with the consequences of your actions.
So, don’t be afraid to make tough decisions — they’re a part of life. Stand up for what you believe in and don’t let others influence your choices.
“What others will think is a cage” in which many people live most of their life. Don’t get stuck in it. Be yourself and make the right decisions for yourself.
What are you waiting for?
Now it’s time to make right, tough decisions that will change your life for good.
Thanks for reading. See you again in the next writing.