Remember this one powerful relationship advice.

There is different advice on the relationship. However, this one advice is common, and implementing this into your life helps you have longer relationships and takes you away from suffering.

We know that expectations are hard to manage. You can’t control expecting from people therefore you have to manage it. This advice is on expectation management which plays a great role in any relationship.

This advice has to be implemented by two persons who are going to be in a relationship. It doesn’t work effectively if used just by one person. The formula works in 3 simple steps.

Person 1 — Expect: Express

This is step one. In this step, out of two people in a relationship, the one who expects becomes person 1, for instance. So this person 1 expects something from the other person (person 2).

If the expectation is unexpressed to the person 2 but expected to be fulfilled, mostly the expectations fail, which means the person 2 cannot give person 1 what they want. Then the relationship fails automatically.

If the expectation is expressed to the person 2, this takes us to the next step.

Person 2 — Understand: Respond

This is step two. Person 2 has to understand the expectations and fulfill them if that’s necessary. This is responding instead of reacting. If the expectation can’t be fulfilled, person 2 has to express a proper explanation that’s acceptable by person 1. This takes us to the next step.

Person 1 — Decide to expect/Unexpect.

This is step three. Now person 1 has to decide about expectations in the relationship. Whether person 1 has to make expectations or not. If person 2 fails to meet your expectations after a few trials, then give up on expectations, not on the relationship.

If expectations are fulfilled, expect less. Remember not to over expect as it will cause you misery.

This way, make a final decision on expectations in your life and free yourself from worry and suffering. Even many classes happen in a relationship because of these expectations. The significant cause of suffering in relationships is because of too many expectations.

Expect less or expect none. Give your loved ones the freedom to do what they want and live the way they love. This builds a stronger relationship and greater respect for everyone.