Stop expecting from others and start expecting from self.

“Expecting from self and materialistic things is far better than expecting from people, as people don’t meet your expectations and make you suffer.”

When is the last time you expected something in your life? If you expected something from your work, and the results are not as expected, you would feel sad. If you expected something from yourself and you didn’t meet self-expectations and still you become sad. But in these two instances, you have control over things and you can try again and again until you fulfil your expectations.

“Sometimes we create our own heart breaks by expectations.”

Whereas if you expected something from other people and it doesn’t matter whether they are the people you know or the people close to you. If they failed to meet your expectations, surely you would have suffered more than anything. Maybe some relationships are broken because of these expectations and made you suffer the pain of losing the people in life. This is the main reason why I advise you to stop expecting from others. You are not only going to lose people but also you lose your mental peace and happiness.

“If you expect nothing from somebody, you are never disappointed.” — Sylvia Plath.

Instead of wasting energy on expectations from others, you could use that valuable energy and time to construct your mind and become a better person.

“I find my life is a lot easier the lower I keep my expectations.” — Bill Watterson.

People will not change for you. If that happens, they will hate you and themselves too. If you expect them to become good and they are not interested in it and therefore you end up with pain. Therefore, never tell people to change or don’t expect them to become some person you wish to see. Let them be what they are. Let them suffer and grow from their own experiences. Then let them become the good ones you expected them to become.

“our expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” — Bruce Lee

This way you are valuing other's ways of living and stop expecting and become happy and peaceful. There are several expectations that grow in our mind as we come to know people more and more. Advise your mind not to expect as they kill your peace.

Therefore, the important lesson is you need to stop expecting from people and divert that focus towards building a better self.