The Only Happiness Guide You Will Ever Need.
The ultimate guide for anyone looking for happiness in their life. There are several guides that convey different methods to achieve happiness in your life. However, this guide is based on the best working principles that work well for most people if implemented well. You will not need any more guides or methods ever if you understand and use this guide well. This guide is based on intensive research and experiences. So it has a lot of value, and it works every time for everyone.
Live in this moment:
The most sadness and worry we create in our lives is in our head, which is in the form of thoughts or imagination. Our thoughts and imagination are not real. They happen in our heads, and they churn our minds and disturb us forever when you allow them to control you.
How can you be happy if you don’t focus on now? You wake up and think about your last day's painful experience and you become sad even today. You think about tomorrow and get scared of it because of some thought and even this spoils your day.
Even you can never be happy if you think about today. You wake up and you get refreshed and then while taking breakfast; you think about your work. While working you think about your evening for your work to end. When you reach home and while spending with your family, you think about your night plans and while sleeping; you think about tomorrow and this thinking cycle continues. This way you can never be happy. You will always suffer because of your thoughts.
Most of our imagination and thoughts are about our past or future. Many dwell in the past and suffer, and many others imagine their future and worry every day. In both ways, you are suffering somehow with thoughts. Thoughts are common and you can’t control them easily, but you can deal with them.
You need to remember that you can’t change your past and you don’t know what your future looks like. But you can make this moment memorable. You can control this moment and make the most out of it. This moment can help you build your future.
Remember to live in this moment. Focus on now. Ignore your painful past, but remember the lessons it taught. Ignore thoughts about the future, but build your future by living in this moment.
Ways of dealing with your thoughts:
MEDITATE, SPEND TIME IN NATURE, FOCUS, AND EXPERIENCE THIS MOMENT BY ANALYZING EVERYTHING.
Showing gratitude improves your life and others’ life. When you feel thankful to things and people you got in your life, you feel blessed and hopeful. This makes you live an interesting life.
You don’t need 100 secrets or ways to live a happy life. You can use just one way to be happy all the time. So choose one way that works well for you over every way. This is one such way.
You may have seen many people who are sad. You may have also seen people who are sad complain a lot. Remember that people who complain are always sad. They always feel bad. They always suffer mentally. They complain about everything.
They complain about situations. They complain about their health. They complain about the environment. They complain about lack of resources. The only to fix this problem is by showing gratitude. Be thankful for every small thing, naturally.
Grow the habit of being thankful for everything and everyone in your way. It doesn’t matter whether it's a good thing or a bad thing, a good person or a bad person that you meet in your life. They always come in your way for a reason. They teach you valuable lessons. So be thankful always.
Remember: people who whine are never happy. So stop complaining. Appreciate everything in your life, good and bad. Be thankful to everything and everyone.
How to be thankful?
When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you need to do is: say thanks to everything in your life. Say thanks to the creator who gave you that day to live. Say thanks to the sunlight that hit your face in the morning.
Say thanks to the air you breathe. Say thanks to the water that cleanses you. Say thanks to breakfast, lunch, and supper. Say thanks to every person who helped you and troubled you. This way you are going to achieve mental happiness that's permanent.
Spend time with cheerful people:
The amount of happiness you get is the average of cheerful people you spend time with. These feelings are viral. If you spend time with the right people, you get great value in your life.
Try spending time with negative people for a while and you will become negative-minded. If you spend time with optimistic people, you become optimistic too. The same way spending time with sad people makes you sad, and spending time with cheerful people makes you happy.
When you spend time with cheerful people, they encourage you in every aspect and they never try to bring you down or limit you.
Start spending your time with the right people who can level you up in life. This way you become the true yourself. Start spending time with cheerful people.
People carry different energies in them. They even share that energy with the people who spend time with them. So surround yourself with the right people who share the right energies that can make you feel great and live great.
Find people you admire the most in your life and make new connections with the people who are great for you and start spending time with them as much as possible. This helps you make up the right mindset that suits you.
Pursue creative passion or hobby:
Many people get caught up in their routine and forget about the passions, hobbies, or dreams they once had. Don’t let this be you! Go back and explore your interests.
The most common reason most people hate their lives when they grow up is choosing the wrong career. Many don’t pursue their passion because it’s difficult, or it doesn't pay you well. In simple words, the numbers dominate your passion and make you lose your goal or passion that can light up your life and help you live as a cheerful person.
If you don’t have any passion, then find a creative passion or hobby that you can pursue when you have free time. This will prevent boredom in life and also help you live a more interesting life.
Personal tip: I usually make a plan to learn something new that may be helpful in my life. I will take up some new course or a challenge, or I will read a book from a new genre that I have never read. In simple words, I try to find my passion or a hobby by trying new things.
You can even search on the internet. For new ideas or challenges or courses to try. This way, you experience new things that add new knowledge and wisdom to your life.
Remember: Pursuing your passion can make life interesting and worthwhile.
Make a list of things you like and make a list of things you want to try in this life. Now arrange the list based on priority. Now pursue or do one thing at a time from the list.
This also helps you achieve a life that is full of adventures. I advise you to add the fears that you want to face to the list. For example, you love trekking, but your fear of heights is stopping you. Go start with basic trekking and, this way, you not only lose your fear but also you begin a new hobby or passion in your life. Keep experimenting and keep finding new things that make your life more interesting every day.
Remember to keep your passion ignited all the time in your life.
Live close to nature:
Living close to nature has several advantages. Living close to nature means living naturally by consuming the right food, fresh air, freshwater, and other natural resources. But modern development has made it hard to stay close to nature as most cities and places are filled with enormous buildings and other constructions.
Several types of research have even proved that happiness hormones (serotonin and dopamine) are released when you spend time in nature. It may be planting, going for a walk in nature, or just sitting on a desk under a huge tree. All these activities will improve your mental energy.
So start spending as much time as possible in nature.
Nature has some great secret healing powers which will fix your mind and body magically.
Pro-tip: Spend a few minutes at least in nature during the early morning or in the evening when the environment is calm and free from disturbance.
Learn to relax:
Giving yourself time to relax is very important. Working hard is good, but taking breaks is also very important. These breaks rewire your mind and make them work more efficiently. That’s the reason several companies encourage power naps.
Relaxation is linked with happiness. The more relaxed you are, the more happy you will feel. Relaxation can happen in several ways. It can happen by sleeping well. For example;, If you had enough sleep, you would feel good. If you don’t have enough sleep, you would feel completely upset and tired.
Relaxation can happen by meditation, naps, walk or spending time with family. You can choose any way and spend time just to relax. Meditating regularly works well for having a happier life and even several researches have proved it. There are different meditations and you can choose what’s convenient for you.
Our bodies are like machines, and they need rest too. Otherwise, they become weak and they stop performing well. So it's very important to have a rest for your body and mind to stay healthy.
Pro tip: Sit and take deep breaths when you feel tired. This is the simple way of losing tiredness in less time.
Volunteer for a cause:
Most people are selfish and most people try to get happier by being selfish in all ways. These people are very happy, but it’s temporary. But what if I tell you you get unlimited happiness, which lasts longer, by being unselfish. Do you accept it?
Let me clear it for you. The unlimited happiness you get in life is through giving service or helping someone who is in need. You don’t need to give a million dollars to someone to become more happy. You just need to help others in the way that you are able to.
If you don’t have resources to help others, you can give your time and volunteer for a good cause. Even this gives you happiness that lasts longer. If you find any needy, help them and if you can give your time to any charity places by volunteering, then give it.
These simple ways of giving yourself for a cause gives you not only happiness but also great satisfaction.
Remember this: Selfish (Takers) are not always happy but Unselfish(Givers) are always happy.
Pro tip: Find any charity events that are happening in or around your area and contact them and find whether there are any volunteering opportunities. Most charities would be very happy to welcome and volunteer with them.
You must accept things, situations, and people in your life first. After accepting, decide what to do with them instead of worrying about what to do with them. Things, situations, and people come into your life for a good reason.
Finding the reason and accepting everything in life frees you from anxiety and worry. You will even learn some great lessons for life which will help you become a better person.
Accepting everything in life makes living easy that is free of mental barriers and judgment. You perceive everything in the right way you become more happier everyday.
Acceptance is more crucial in life to become happy always. Even self-acceptance will help you understand yourself very well and help you face your weaknesses.
Self acceptance is a tool for improvement when used carefully to grow into a better person.
Expectations play a major role in many areas of life, such as relationships, personal success and happiness, and society. Many people experience sadness when their expectations are not met. This may be because of different reasons such as unmet expectations for oneself or others.
People and situations will inevitably disappoint you. When you constantly put all your happiness and success on the other person to meet your expectations, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Setting other people up as the sole person responsible for our happiness and success is unfair and it puts all of the pressure on them. You should stop expecting from external sources because it’s not fair to expect them to make you happy or successful.
Happiness comes to you when you stop expecting from others and start expecting from yourself. Expecting from yourself and meeting your own expectations is easier than expecting from others because you are in control of these thoughts. It can be difficult to not have some expectations for yourself, but the more you let go of the need to depend on someone else’s expectations, the happier you will get.
Expectations cause sadness. Once you stop expecting and start accepting, life turns into a great show that’s full of happiness.
Have a pet:
It is true that some people deal with loneliness in a manner that is different from others. Some people are not capable of putting themselves out there into the world in order to make new friends, and they end up feeling sadness when they are left alone for too long.
However, it may be possible to combat this problem by adopting a pet. Pets offer companionship for their owners which can help alleviate the feelings of loneliness.
A new study has shown that owning pets can be good for both physical and mental health. Researchers found that pet owners were less likely to suffer from depression than those who didn’t own pets. The study also found that pet owners were healthier than those who did not own pets, with the biggest differences being observed in those who owned more than one animal.
So, find your favorite pet and let go of your loneliness and gain happiness.
Pro tip: Find abandoned pets and bring them up. This way, you help them by giving them food and shelter, and you help yourself to fight loneliness.
Did you know that smiling actually makes people happy? Psychologists at the University of Kansas found that when people are able to show their teeth, they’re more likely to feel happier. This is because the muscles used for smiling are connected to those that regulate mood. Smiling can help us out of dark moods by activating these muscles and releasing endorphins.
But it’s not just the muscles that are involved. Smiling releases dopamine, a “feel-good” chemical that helps regulate our mood. Smiling also helps us feel connected with others. Whenever we smile, we’re establishing a kind of social contract with our friends, with our family, and with strangers — a kind of implicit agreement to be nice and caring toward each other — and that’s exactly what the brain is doing.
When you smile, it makes other people happy. It can make you feel confident and can make a bad day better. Smiling also has been shown to reduce the stress hormone cortisol, making your body more relaxed. Did you know that when you smile you are telling your brain that you are happy…and you are.
Smiles are a part of our daily lives, but have you ever stopped to think about the power of a smile?
Have you ever considered what a smile can do for you?
Did you know that the smile of a child can change someone’s life for the better? The smile of a child never fails to make the person smile back.
A child is happy to see you happy, he/she will do anything just to make you laugh. A smile is infectious and makes us all feel good. When you see a smile, you feel like smiling and laughing, as if someone has just rubbed your face.
This is because of a phenomenon called contagious smiling. “When someone smiles, their facial muscles are activated and we react to that activation,” explained Dr. Giorgio Vallortigara, a professor of psychology at the University of Padova.
Start spreading smiles and make someone’s day better.
Don’t give up your control to others:
Want to be happy? You can control it. Just don’t give up your power to others. Too many people are turning over their power to other people in order to achieve happiness, but what they’re doing is trading one unhappy situation for another.
If you want to be happy, learn how to be happy on your own without relying on others or things outside of your control.
Always listen to one expert’s advice and that’s you. Stop listening to others and stop taking everyone’s opinion. People are always ready to give you their invaluable opinions and judgments.
You give control to others by placing yourself in the cage of “what others think”. This way you don’t start doing anything, and you regret it later. Stop thinking about what others will judge you and start living your own life on your own terms without limiting yourself in anyways.
It’s okay to listen to everyone’s opinion and judgment because it helps you find the positives and negatives of anything but make sure you are analyzing their words carefully before you implement them.
It’s very important to have freedom for yourself. So stop giving away your control to others and start controlling yourself in a better way.