Why your children are not your children?

“Children have their own thoughts and their own freedom to think. Parents have to give their love but not their thoughts.” — Kahil Gibran.

There are several popular articles on parenting over the internet. Some work well and some don’t in practical conditions. Children are sensitive and open-minded. Wherever they learn in their childhood, dictate all their life.

“A person is what his childhood taught him.”

Children learn faster and observe much in their childhood. Even unconscious learning happens at a great rate. Their beliefs are purely based on what they learned and experienced in their childhood.

Even after they grew up, they live with the same lessons they have learned in their childhood. The same things happen with their beliefs. Therefore, it’s hard to change their thinking system that is built in their childhood.

If the thinking system a person learned in their childhood is good, it helps a person become better and live a happy life in the future. If the system is bad, then the person suffers forever.

But who is teaching all these beliefs and rules to the people? The first teachers are parents, and the second ones are teachers and society. The problem is, these people are teaching what they believe and their beliefs are based on their experiences and these experiences are old and sometimes outdated like many systems that are in this modern world.

Most of the parents give lots of love to their children, which is wonderful. In the same way, they give thoughts, beliefs, mindsets, and rules. This is worse. The children have their own thinking system. They have to experience the changing life. But they are limited to living their parents and society’s life.

This is the reason why many fail in their lives. These children are being told not to take any risks, and these children are being told that they have to follow all rules. The children took their words so deep and they have been programmed to work in a particular way, which makes them lose their individuality and freedom.

“Give your love to children, not your thoughts.”

Therefore, most people who grew with such programmed minds are not taking risks. They live in their so-called comfort zone, dwelling like a frog in the well. This is the reason why their dreams remain as dreams and they die with the people. Almost, many people are dead, killing their dreams, aspirations, and goals.

They are only living for the sake of family, relations, friends, and society. They don’t have anything to live for themselves. They are desperate. They hate their lives.

Parents think they are building a great future for their children. The truth is they are destructing it by giving their children their own thoughts and beliefs. They are giving their love along with hatred.

Children must be given their freedom to think and you only need to be their guides helping them in all stages of life instead of dictating them what to do with life.

This way they would grow into people who have the freedom and the right mindset that helps them and the society that is changing with time.

“Give your children your love and freedom and nothing else. For this they would be grateful to you forever.”

Happy parenting…